Give up or endure?

[shinyhero]

I'm a Scorpio female currently having a Taurus boyfriend. We started being together on the 13th of October. And had since have had a rough start. We had plenty of disagreements and different ways of communication. Just last week we started opening up and address the issue to how and what to compromise, in order to make things work.

Admittedly, I played the "break up" card one too many times. And probably broke his heart many times, but I had my own share of my heart being broken by him.

After the talk I decided to open up fully to realize the full potential of our relationship, however he is still not willing to open up, although he claims he is doing his best to work it out with me. I started calling him pet names and he just ignores them. He said he loves me too because I said them but he has never said that to me first.

Also, I came across briefly with the texts him and his ex gf sends to each other and my God... He was so affectionate and calling her pet names all the time, instantly replying her messages and sends her a volley of messages. Comparing the way he texts me, it's always serious all the time. It didn't even feel like he's my boyfriend. Sadly, his ex cheated on him in the end..

I'm not sure if I can keep up with his unreciprocated expression of affections. My heart aches every time he ignores my loving messages and how he takes his own sweet time to reply my text although he has his phone with him all the time. I don't know whether I should move on, or should I keep up with this and continue this affection with hopes that he would one day open up to me.

Thank you for your time to read this, appreciate all replies.

[sven555]

hey shinyhero,

Welcome to the forums!

Your situation sounds one of familiarity; astrology-aside; it sounds like he has a wondering eye for his ex girlfriend.
It is great that you wish to try to make things better by sorting out openly with him and equally a shame that you had to go through his phone to find out the reason why your loving messages received a blank on his part.

Right now, Mercury is Retrograde, so it is likely he is thinking about people from his past.

People are strange, considering how quick things took off, maybe a bit more time would be helpful in understanding things.

If you wish to post your charts; do so and we can see why he is acting a certain way.

[aludra]

Hey Shinyhero,

Could you give us your birth details, your birth date, exact hour and place ? I can check your transits, and see whats going on. By the way, Sven55 is right, its mercury retrograde and these miscommunucations and remembering the past is normal.

[shinyhero]

Yeah I was thinking perhaps this is going way too fast for him and he needs time to open up despite already decided to be with me. He passed me his old phone and I did mention about his messages, in which he said he didn't mind me snooping around. I didn't mention the contents of his messages with him, although it bothers me. His ex and him were together for 3 years anyway, so I'm thinking maybe thats why he's so comfortable with her.

Right now, I think I'm getting impatient. Perhaps a little more time would make him be affectionate and whatnot, the same as he treats his ex? :/

Here's my chart, thanks for taking your time to read and reply me!

[aludra]

Dear Shinyhero,

Lets leave the astrology behind. For me this is unexcaptable. You are not even in a relationship. Real relationships not deal with those kind of stuff you wrote to us. What i see hear is, unrespectful behaviour to each other because there is no love. You think its love, but its not love. Believe me when you live /the real love and real relationship/ you will understand what i am saying here. Even though, its not relationship we are dealing with here, when we came to your chart.

Your eclipses are happening in 1-7 houses of your. You will have to deal human relations one to one in your life this year. You can call it break up, (its not a breakup, because its not arelationship) you can call it a relationship, but i call it its a two humans trying to work it out. Plus, your many planets in your scorpio. You are, i think too obsessive over a guy who does not even love you. You should use your scorpion power to respect yourself. You are not respecting yourself, why should he ? If you respect yourself and not let him those things to you, you will be happier and not crying out.

Also, the lord of the karma, Saturn is entering your 12th house. You will see in 2 years from now on. You will face your innerself, you will learn whats wrong and whats right, youre gonna have to face the fact that even though you dont want something, it will happen. You will have to do peace with yourself, i would say, do yoga and meditation.

Also, the Jupiter will help you as well, Jupiter is in scorpio now, it will help you to find yourself to a better. It will pass all of your planets. if you do not sort it out your friend with your hanging out, then youre eventually gonna hit a rock on February when the leo lunar eclipse will happen.

Im an astrologer and my clients are always asking me about their real relationship problems, i have seen many many many charts and many many lives. This youre dealing of yours, is not a relationship. Believe me.

shinyhero you have to learn to respect yourself. Your south node is in gemini, youre dealing with alot of thoughts and stuff. But your north node is in sagittarius, it wants you to see the things far ehead. You have to see things from distance. You have to see the whole thing, not piece by piece. You have to learn in life the pieces are not important, the important thing for you is to see the things in whole perspective !

When you focus on whats really going on in your hanging with your friend (outside perspective), you will understand what im saying.

Have the best,

Aludra

[shinyhero]

Ah, thank you aludra for the candid reply, and the insight. I needed that to wake me up. I have been thinking of this relationship retrospectively ever since I read your reply and understood that some self-respect is due. I will still give him time to open up, but I wont be letting myself be obsessed over his behavior anymore. When the time is up, I will definitely let go without hesitation if everything stays the same. No use getting hung up and waste precious time on someone who doesn't feel the same way as I do.

Thank you, your words woke me up!

[aludra]

Youre welcome shinyhero. Happy to hear those things. Wish you the best !